Kempsey councillor refuses to resign over violent online comment

A Kempsey Shire councillor is refusing to resign after an investigation found he made a violent comment to a woman online. Noel Selby said he would not be stepping down but would consider attending a men's behavioural-change program after his peers unanimously called for his resignation.

A decision on how to discipline the councillor was reached after more than an hour of confidential discussion about an independent investigator's report which found that Cr Selby posted a comment to a woman raising domestic violence concerns saying it was a "pity he hadn't bashed you".

Cr Selby declined to comment after the proceedings but shared a written statement and told reporters he would not resign.

"I stand by my original statement that my FB page was hacked!"

"I am against all acts of domestic violence."

Cr Selby said in his statement that he had "never abused any woman in my 75 years" and had worked with several local community groups, including the Country Women's Association and Rotary.

"My reason for wanting to be on council in the first place was to try and make Kempsey Shire a better place for everybody to live in," he said.

"That's what I intend to do in the future, because that's what I was voted in for."

Kempsey Mayor Kinne Ring said the community was "rightfully outraged" by Cr Selby's comment, noting the prevalence of domestic violence in the region.

"We can't make Cr Selby resign, but we can request that he resign," she said.

"Ultimately, council decided to not only censure him but also request that he resign and that we recommend he engage in a men's behavioural-change program."

Mayor Kinne Ring said the matter had cost council more than $40,000 in lost time and resources.

"As a woman, as a 31-year-old female with sisters, with nieces, with my own mother, I don't condone violence against women or violence in any form," Cr Ring said.

"It's been a really challenging investigation for me, to not be able to make my feelings clear."

Deputy Mayor Arthur Bain said councillors had taken the strongest stance possible under current legislation, after being "inundated with concerns".

"I hope we're sending a very, very clear message to the community we don't condone violence, or threats or intimidation, particularly to women," he said.

June Wilson, the executive officer of domestic violence service Kempsey Families, said while she welcomed the council's decision, she did not believe Cr Selby had taken accountability for his actions.

"We do need to know that sort of behaviour can't be tolerated by anyone, particularly in a position of privilege and a fair degree of power," Ms Wilson said.

"If someone is not willing to hold themselves to account, men's behaviour change is a complete waste of time," she said.

"The appropriate thing to do would be to acknowledge that you've made an error, however that happened, and just step out of the limelight and retire or resign."